Which One is Motivating YOU

Which one are YOU practicing...

HEALTHY change and achievement

Or

SHAME change and achievement

Let us explore together.....

Change, achievement, growth and striving can be healthy and empowering, or they can be an invitation for deeper healing and a pattern of never being good enough, aka shame.

I have experienced both or waffled between the two in my own, sometimes MESSY journey!

Sometimes both in the same day haha

Perfectionism and SHAME can be powerful motivators but often come at the cost of our happiness, health and ability to enjoy the evolutionary journey.

Let us look at the difference between the two, so you can reflect and reassess if your current motivators come from self-compassion, authentic alignment OR shame, and feelings of never being good enough.

Change from a place of authentic alignment and self-compassion feels energizing, empowering and fulfilling.

When creating, striving and growing from authentic alignment, you are so clear and passionate about your WHY that the bumps on the road of the journey are worth it.

You practise self-care and speak to yourself like a cheerleader, coach or best friend who always encourages you when you are down and has your back no matter what.

You can make mistakes or failures, evidence of effort and bravery.

You are comfortable feeling uncomfortable because expansion often requires temporary discomfort and you learn to face uncertainty with grace.

Mostly you will enjoy the JOURNEY as much as the destination, even if it gets messy at times.

Change from a place of shame, perfectionism and lack of self-worth feels exhausting, unfulfilling or meaningless.

When creating, striving and growing from a place of shame, social pressure and feeling of not being good enough, you constantly have to push and struggle, and the bumps on the road might feel unfair and overwhelming.

The change or journey does not feel enjoyable, and the energy behind it is lack. It tends to take longer and requires more effort.

It might look like "I will be happy WHEN I...." or "I will be worthy and good enough once I accomplish....."

You may have a harsh inner critic pushing and shaming you and suffer from many self-criticisms.

I see this often when I work with high achievers. Some who may have fancy degrees and lots of money feel unfulfilled and frustrated, while others with the same accomplishments feel fulfilled, happy and energized.

In the human experience of consciousness, change is inevitable and evolutionary growth within the individual; therefore, the collective is one of the reasons we choose earth.

Change and growth can mean anything important and aligned for you.

Being a great parent, getting a degree, learning a new language, practising more self-compassion, finding a relationship, a weight loss journey, learning to drive, planting a garden, creating a multi-million dollar company and employing people, overcoming anxiety, creating art, helping others etc.

Growing from a place of self-worth, self-compassion and authentic alignment with your needs, boundaries and core values will change your life and generate energy and enthusiasm.

A strong WHY will also fuel the fun of a human evolutionary journey.

You are ALREADY good enough, and you deserve love and compassion.

You can change and grow from a place of authentic alignment, empowerment and purpose, whatever that looks like for YOU.

I LOVE what I do for a living, and I learn and grow every day working with people worldwide.

Reach out if you want help on your journey or desire clarity on your authentic wants, needs and core values so you can approach your journey of evolutionary growth with energy, self-compassion and FUN.

If you’re navigating connection, alignment, or growth in your own life and want support, I’m here.

Together we heal.
Together we grow.
Together we evolve.

Love and gratitude,

Sandy